I seem to do a lot of
writing about stuff that happens during an altercation, and
not too much about things that are going on before the
occurrence of one. Some might view this as an over-site, but frankly,
I have a hard time understanding why people don't (naturally) already
know this stuff.
The
following list points out a lot of the more common Aggressive
Intent Indicator's commonly displayed by
(wanna-be) “Alpha” types. Though usually made by Men,
they could also be exhibited by physically hostile Females
as well. If this list was for the Predator
type of
aggressor #1, you'd probably never
see them prior to the confrontation beginning. If you did
see them, the odds of the aggression even happening
would be cut in half (if
not more).
Glaring,
staring (essentially, sizing you up)
Making
unprovoked accusations, threats, demands.
Swearing
for no apparent reason
Baiting
or attempting to provoke an aggressive response from you
Moving
into range, this can be either forward, or back
Unusual
or out-of-place body movements
Aggressive
gestures
Agitated
pacing
Clenched
fists (clenching in conjunction with a wide opening of the
hands)
Forward/Rearward
weight shift
Straightening
of the spine / puffing of the chest
Adopting
a fighting stance
Positioning
and/or creating space to move or draw a weapon
Teeth
clenched, or other stiff or shaking body movements,
(often
done in conjunction w/growling)
Cocking your arm back
prior to punching or striking;
Tensing/raising your neck,
shoulder, or arms prior to striking;
Widening your eyes or
raising your eyebrows;
Shifting your shoulders;
Grinning or opening your
mouth; and
Taking a sudden and deep
breath.
Other
subconscious indications
Sudden
face flush (turning red), When that “Red Face” turns white
(which is an ANAEROBIC RESPONSE) it is an indication that
subject will attack.
When
a person is looking at you, then suddenly looks away, or is looking
away, then suddenly looks at you, this is referred to as a Target
glance (as when sighting a gun),
or a witness check, reviewing
how many are around (a quasi-dramatic effect, LOL).
Change
in rate, tone, pitch, or volume of a person’s voice (ie. A
“Shouter”),who previously was giving a speech
about your faults/disrespect whatever, becomes quiet, or
doubles in volume (so as too
display/show-off your
trouncing).
A
Sudden change in a person’s breathing, sudden deep breath.
…......
As
I said, to me, any of these can be something that gets
my attention. Not that any of them are a guarantee that
something is about to happen, but they definitely are
something that warrants attention.
For
those of you who haven't ever been in a fight, go to a
schoolyard playground, and watch two little boys who are about to get
into a fight. They'll display about everything that's on that
list. It doesn't matter the age (5-55), unless someone has trained
themselves not to display these actions, they will (almost
always) occur (that's what makes them “natural”
motions/reactions, LOL).
Simply
being aware that a confrontation is about to occur, doesn't
make it go-away. There have to be active steps made to
nullify a developing situation. There are also
those situations that (despite your best efforts) can't
be dissipated and/or you can't (physically) get away from. It's those
situations that we train student's to respond to.
Knowing
(as much as one can, LOL) that a confrontation is about
to occur, the defender (tori) should already have their
defensive motion in mind, and be prepared to implement
it at the first sign of perceived aggression. There is no
law that says you have to be struck and/or injured
before you can do anything to protect yourself. I've had
lawyer's (as students) that did not know this (WTF, they
couldn't have been very good lawyer's, LOL. Oh well, They
didn't last long as student's anyhow).
If
you have your defensive motion prepared (in your head), that's the
only thing you really need to concentrate on. Don't give a S&%t
about what they have to say to you, only think
about protecting yourself (when questioned by the police
later, you were too scared to understand or worry about
whatever it was that he/she was saying).
Too
often people make the mistake of attempting to carry on a logical
conversation. (uh, WTF) If you've reached the point of concern
for your own well being, fuck conversation. Keep in mind,
having to Think (concentrate) about something besides
what's happening right NOW, is distracting (that's why
it was brought up, they don't GAF what your response
is, or will be. When you (obviously) start thinking about it
(your “answer”), is when you get plowed (confrontation
over, done....as are you).
If
they've walked away, your (once again) screwed. By
walking away, the confrontation has ended. If you pursue them
“your” (now) the aggressor. And frankly, if you do,
you deserve to get your ass kicked, and if they have a
bunch of friends there, they'll probably get some shots in also
(which everyone will deny ever happened and your just whining
about getting your ass handed to you).
Basically,
getting into a confrontation sucks. It never goes how
you've (ever) imagined it. And it rarely ever will. The
best one can plan for (if/when you do wind up in one),
is that you've practiced your defensive motions sufficiently
to execute them effectively, so that your not contemplating
what you couldah/shouldah have done, on your way to the
hospital (or Jail).
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